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Medical Students Never Get the Blues
(Or Do They?)
Of course they do. I’ve seen many
of them over the years. I’ve also
seen them use counseling effectively to
go on and become successful and happy physicians.
There’s a myth in the medical community
that says that physicians (and by extension,
medical students,) can handle anything that
happens. Doctors are the ones with answers;
patients are the ones with problems. This
neatly divides the world into “Us”
vs. “Them.” I suspect that this
myth prevails because it is actually so
tough to be a doctor. Any doctor faces so
many painful things in his or her practice
that some defenses are only practical. There
are times when denial is useful.
However, this defense can backfire. It
is especially dangerous for medical students
who are socialized into believing this myth,
and may have bought into it even before
med school. When a medical student runs
into some perfectly understandable feelings
of depression or anxiety, if he or she believes
that having such feelings would indicate
inadequacy to be a physician, how can the
person deal with them effectively? Especially
when counseling is needed.
Consider medical school. It is both a fabulous,
exciting opportunity, and a frightening,
grueling ordeal. The things to be learned
are fascinating. At the same time, there
is so much information to be covered. That’s
not the school’s fault. The explosion
in medical knowledge means that every year
there is more that needs to be learned.
Yet we still have the same number of years
to learn it. No wonder students frequently
feel overwhelmed.
The pace is faster in medical school than
the student has ever faced before. This
is true of any graduate school. In medical
school, however, students are often expected
to progress in “lock-step.”
There are few provisions for going part
time.
Any student who has a scintilla of self-doubt
(as all people do) will find that self-doubt
activated and magnified at times in medical
school. The student finds himself or herself
asking, “Can I really do this? Am
I good enough?” Then there is the
realization sometime before rotations that
these are actual live people about whom
you will be making decisions. Even though
there is a thorough back up system, this
is an awesome responsibility. It is a rare
student who does not question himself or
herself at that point. In my experience,
those students who worry about the responsibility
make the best physicians, but they go through
a rough time first.
Medical students are bright. That goes
without saying. But because of that, they
are used to being at the top of their classes.
For the first time, everyone else in the
class is also very intelligent. A student
often finds himself or herself working harder
than ever before, only to receive grades
that are merely passing. This can be discouraging.
Attending physicians and residents vary
in how gently they correct students. Some
truly believe they should be tough on students
“to make sure they can take it.”
In the meantime, life keeps on happening.
There is no way to put all the other problems
on hold for four years. When a student starts
medical school, he or she is in a new school
setting, and maybe in a whole new city.
Wonderful friends from college are now far
away. The student is faced with making new
friends, and in a very competitive environment
in which he or she may not know who is safe
to confide in. For a while, the student
will suffer a lack of effective support.
And “for a while” is normally
much of the first year, sometimes even a
little longer.
The student may be in a relationship and
struggling to find time for both school
and the relationship. The relationship may
be rocky, or it may end, adding this stress
to that of school. Those without a relationship
usually wish they had one. Some students
are married, even have children. These ties
can be helpful in keeping perspective, yet
is it hard to balance the needs of family
and school.
There may be family worries. Parents may
be fighting, or divorcing. A grandparent
may be severely ill or dying. Someone in
the family may have trouble with alcohol
or other drugs; perhaps the rest of the
family tends to lean on the student, who
has little time or energy to help yet feels
guilty for refusing.
Some students are shy and not easily sociable.
They tend to worry about not having enough
friends. Others naturally surround themselves
with friends, and are frustrated that there
is less time for friends than ever before.
Hobbies or other major interests fall by
the wayside, even though the relief they
provide is needed. How do you choose between
playing basketball and studying for exams?
More students than would admit it find
themselves not passing at least one test.
This is a shock, and often the first time
it has ever happened. Even if the student
is passing everything, it is common to compare
oneself to others – usually unfavorably.
Many med students are perfectionists. And
some students play mind games, pretending
to be farther along in their studying than
they are, or the like. Many students wonder
if they will make it. Compounding this worry
is the knowledge that probably “everyone”
knows the student is going to med school.
The student may worry about what to tell
people if he or she leaves, or has to repeat
a course or a year of study.
I hope by now I have convinced you that
it is reasonable for many med students to
have feelings of depression or anxiety,
or both, at times during their career. That
is why every accredited school has a student
counseling service, which is either free
or very low in cost. Feeling depressed or
anxious doesn’t mean you are weak
or inadequate, or that you cannot be a good
doctor. It just means that you have run
into something you need help with. The positive
side is that medical students are bright
and determined to make something of their
lives. That is a good description of the
ideal counseling patient. It often doesn’t
take long before the student is thriving
again. However, the longer you wait before
getting help, the worse you are likely to
feel, and your academic performance may
suffer. I wish I could somehow let you inside
my mind when I see a new student, and feel
the respect and concern I feel, and how
satisfying it is when the student goes out
doing well.
If you would like to talk to someone about
coping in medical school, feel free to call
us at +91-9910120247 We will be happy to
see you.
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